One type of spiritual practice, to appropriate some words from Wordworth, is “emotion recollected in tranquility.” 

Rupert Spira says somewhere that a conflict with a loved one may be resolved, in part, through discourse, but there may remain a trace of that conflict “inside the body.” Over time, those traces become “deeper layers of feeling” that need to be explored at the somatic level.

If Spira is right, then the Yoga of Awareness can do the trick.

How?

Begin by noting any emotions that result in outbursts as well as those in which you held your tongue. Perhaps the conflict is resolved when your child, after huffing and puffing, finally hops in the shower. But that’s just the beginning.

Note down what occurred in your notebook, and revisit that memory. This is the echo or trace left in the body.

When, at a tranquil moment, you turn to this echo or trace, the point is, states Eric Baret, to “feel the feeling, you’re not the feeling” (Baret). Welcome the feeling with an open heart, and slowly let the residues of ego be released. Be patient.