The Freelancer’s Dilemma: To hustle or to apologize?

Overview

Chapter 1, ‘The Freelancer’s Dilemma,’ is an excerpt from Manners and Mores: A Tutorial for Freelancers Tired of Hustling and Prone to Apologizing. The Table of Contents is included below the excerpt.

How to Order a Copy of Manners and Mores

I live and work in a gift economy. To determine how much you would be able to offer for Manners and Mores, simply ask yourself what you would be able to give wholeheartedly in order to meet some of my material needs, provided that this offering wouldn’t count as a financial burden for you. Such an offering would be an example of ‘just generosity’: neither too much nor too little.

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1. The Freelancer’s Dilemma

For reasons as much of historical contingency as of personal choice, we are all freelancers now. The freelancer, having struck out on his own in the hope of making a certain form of life work, soon becomes bewildered. It is tough going, he finds, tougher than she had anticipated, and everyone now seems to be doing the same thing: launching the same startup, making the same pitch, putting in more fruitless, harried hours. Whether young or old, whether working with high-end clients or piecing together nickel-and-dime projects, the bewildered freelancer faces a dilemma when it comes to securing new projects or expanding the circle of his likeminded acquaintances: he can either plomp for hustling or festoon his epistles with more and more apologies.

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Manners and Mores: A Tutorial for Freelancers Tired of Hustling and Prone to Apologizing

Background

The following ebook was written out of the desire to offer some guidance to freelancers who are stuck between hustling to make it and apologizing for running roughshod over others. Yet the Freelancer’s Dilemma, as I call it, can be overcome but only if one learns the gentler art of manners: of greeting, introducing, inviting, praising, thanking, and saying graceful farewells.

I’ve included a copy of the Preface. Below the Preface you’ll also find a Table of Contents. I hope you find it edifying.

How to Order a Copy of Manners and Mores

I live and work in a gift economy. To determine how much you would be able to offer for Manners and Mores, simply ask yourself what you would be able to give wholeheartedly in order to meet some of my material needs, provided that this offering wouldn’t count as a financial burden for you. Such an offering would be an example of ‘just generosity’: neither too much nor too little.

You can make your offer via PayPal, the link to which is hereExpect to receive your copy the following day.

Preface

How to speak well to strangers; how to introduce yourself to acquaintances; the most suitable way of offering praise to others; the finest way of being a good guest; the most appropriate manner of conducting yourself: all of these subjects have traditionally fallen under the general header, ‘manners and mores.’ And yet, the right practice of manners–once important for courtiers and noblemen, for monks and diplomats, at once delicate and prescient, timely and well-timed–has become an art sorely neglected among those frequently taught to individuals receiving a formal education today.

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